Cold, hard, and emotionless statistics predict that it takes on average 21.4 weeks to land a job, and for those over 55 the hunt can last as long as 39.9 weeks. If you’re in the 100k plus snack-bracket expect for an average hunt of 30 weeks. Experts outline the top ten tips on how to be successful in your cover letter, 64 of the toughest interview questions, and the endless lists of do’s and don’ts. I feel like I’ve read them all. It is easy to talk in terms of figures and best practices; it is quite a different experience to live through it.
I’ve said it a hundred times in the past several months; sometimes you need to go through the miry clay of unemployment to learn about yourself; the good, bad and indifferent. I’ve discovered a few rare colleagues who were life-long friends in disguise; people who’ve had my back and sometimes picked me up by my collar to put me back on my feet again. I’ve been disappointed by some of my failings; and surprised at how my very strange idiosyncrasies protected me from getting a position with a company I later learned would have been a disastrous work environment.
I’ve worked hard, tirelessly in fact, putting myself out there. In the job hunt you’re aiming for one, just one, to close. It’s a win ratio that would crush any coach or sales person; it’s 100 to 1, or worse. With odds like that it is no small wonder we don’t occasionally get discouraged. Take it from me, the absolute best thing to do when you trip over your own feet and land in the mud is get up and walk again. I would get crushing news, and be back at it the same hour. It’s just what you have to do.
If I had it to do all over again I would change only two things; I would not take the first opportunity put before me without a lot of prayerful consideration. Many months ago I accepted an offer that looked too good to be true – and, as a matter of fact, it was. Secondly, I would have invested more time preparing interview responses; I spent a disproportionate amount of time on my portfolio packages and not nearly enough practicing for the interview.
If I had to do it all over again there are hundreds of things I would repeat; but only one thing stands out preeminently. I would surround myself with a network of folks waddling in the same clay I’m mucking through. These people have been my confidants, my teammates, and my friends. Nothing can replace a heart-felt, “I understand” from a person who has, and is, where I am. I’m not going to give you the pointers or statistics; frankly they are interesting but not always helpful – but let me leave you with one gem; find others going through what you are in and help them. Not for the expectation of getting something in return, but for the sheer joy that fellowship brings.